Our parents gave us life. They caressed,
sheltered, and guided us. Their care and love for us started in the embryonic
state long before we were born.
Our parents have a natural loving mind
toward us. They care for us in every single aspect. When we are sick, our
parents will be very worried and wake up early or stay up late to take care of
us. We eat hearty meals at the expense of their
nutrition, have sweet dreams at the
sacrifice of their sleep, and enjoy good health to the detriment of their
health.
They cut their personal needs to satisfy
ours. They have always given us words of encouragements and motivate us and
have always been there by our side supporting us during our failures till we’ve
succeed. Their love is unselfish, wholehearted and everlasting.
Have we ever tried recalling everything
that they have done and sacrificed for us? We are greatly indebted to our
parents. Take a moment to recall everything that they have done for us. It is important to repay their gracious
sacrifices and enormous kindness before it is too late.
Many youngsters had grown up by taking full
advantage of their parents’ kindness and ignored them whenever they had
achieved their goals. Often, they were all too preoccupied with their lives
would use that as a reason to leave their parents abandoned. They never pay
their parents a visit or even take their time to talk and to care about them.
Some live in big houses but they send their parents to the old folk‘s home
without visiting them. During festivals, they never try making and effort to go
home to visit their parents. Some disrespect their parents by scolding them
with mean and hurtful words.
Their acts were not just selfish but
they’re ungrateful as well. They never thought of how
disappointed their parents were going to be
and how the way they acted could hurt their parents. Being an ungrateful child
does not only determine their character but they’re showing a bad example to
their own children and they will be despised by their neighbours and friends as
well. They will not get good merits in life and they might be treated the same
way when they grow old by their own children!
Master Stanley Tham therefore gives the
following advices:
1. We should all appreciate our parents and
spend more time with them. Take some time off daily and find some topic to chat
with them or to encourage them to chat with you in order to help them fill
their free time and make them realize that they are still important to us and
we still love them. Don’t let them feel lonely. Always remind yourself of what
your parents had sacrificed for you and always consider their feelings. On
their birthdays, take some time off from your hectic schedule to spend time
with them. Bring them out for family dinner. At home, together with your
children, kneel before them with a cup of tea and wish them with auspicious
words. Without them, you would not be who you are today.
2. On Chinese New Year morning, it is a
tradition for the children to wake up early and kneel before their parents with
a cup of tea and wish them with a few auspicious words before receiving red
packets from their parents. This tradition signifies a way of respecting their
parents that should be practised by everyone. It is always a good beginning to
train our children to practice those routines and start educating them from
young.
3. Teach your children to respect, love and
care for their grandparents. Let them learn how to take care of their
grandparents and always place importance in their grandparents’ needs and
wants.
4. Take some time off and bring your
parents for a vacation or bring them out to the nearest field to enjoy some
fresh air. Let them enjoy themselves and feel blessed at their prime of life.
Show them your appreciations and love. Take good care of them and always make
them happy. Do not simply send them away to the homes for the aged when you
have a house large enough to accommodate them and you can afford to employ a
nurse to take care of them.
Master Tham had gone to various places and
met various people. He had noticed how good or bad certain people treated their
parents. He wanted to share one good example with his readers. Mr Ng is one of
the good examples!
Mr Ng and his family discovered a crack on
the tombstone during Ching Ming when the whole family went to clean the grave.
They consulted Master Tham about it and had invited him to investigate the Feng
Shui of the grave. When Master Tham was investigating the Feng Shui of Mr Ng’s
mother’s grave, he was very surprised because normally only the cement of the
around graveyard and the tombstone will crack but not the tombstone itself
which is made from hard and solid rock.
During the investigation, Master Tham had
found out that the grave was facing an extremely bad direction. Its bad Chi
could cause serious mishaps such as death to the family and especially to the
eldest son. The badly erected grave and wrongly placed tombstone will affect the
family to remain poor. Feng Shui of the grave should be remedied immediately to
prevent any unwanted occurence.
Master Tham had then found out that Ng and
his family were very filial. The mother was paralyzed quite some time before
she passed away. Mr Ng’s wife and his children had taken very good care of her.
They fed her food before eating theirs. They bathed her, cleaned her and did
all the house chores without complain till her last breath.
Since they were so filial, the Heaven and the
spirit of the mother gave them a sign (cracking of the tombstone) about the
need to remedy the Feng Shui of the grave and at the same time, Ng had heard of
Master Stanley Tham’s in-depth genuine Feng Shui skills in remedying Yin and
Yang Feng Shui and all these do not happen coincidentally.
Two months after Master Tham had carefully
done the remedial actions to the Feng Shui of the grave, Ng’s son was promoted
and he was sent to Switzerland for a company training. His also had an
increment. His daughter had completed her studies and had found a good job with
good pay. Mr Ng has no longer need to serve as a contract labourer. He has now
retired with his wife enjoying their prime of life. The whole family is blessed
with good health and happiness.
Being filial piety has its merits. A filial
child will always be blessed by their parents and Gods.
We must be grateful to those who had
offered a hand to help us or assist us whether they are our friends,
neighbours, teachers, masters, business partners, sisters, brothers, aunties or
uncles. If we have overlooked to be grateful, take this moment to show them our
appreciations.
